Briefly Noted: ‘Put It Down: Going From Bullied to Bold,’ by Maya Claridge
Put It Down: Going From Bullied to Bold, by Maya Claridge, Global Publishing Group LLC (March 13, 2016), 102pp
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
I was bullied in grade school because I was different. When my parents moved to Florida just before I began the first grade, I was the outsider who was born in California, who didn’t have a southern accent, and who didn’t know any of the customs, including the slang.
If I’d had a time machine at my disposal and came to 2016 for a copy of Maya Claridge’s Put it Down: Going From Bullied to Bold and put her suggestions into practice, I would have been a much happier student.
The book details the bullying Maya suffered in school, how she felt about it and began to excuse it or blame herself (which is what a lot of targets of bullying do), how she finally solved the problem, and the lessons she learned that can help kids in secondary school deal with it effectively.
As she says, being bullied turns kids into lonely kids who believe they have nowhere to turn. Some of those kids’ “solutions” are destructive and make the bullying worse–or lead them to commit suicide. I know about this.
Who should read this book?
- Secondary school students who are being bullied.
- Students whose friends are being bullied.
- K-12 teachers and administrators.
- The parents of secondary school students.
- Helping professions including psychologists, ministers, school counselors, youth group leaders who may be asked to help.
This is a brave book, I think, because the author has used self-disclosure to show one way the problem can get started. It’s also a must-read book for those who are suffering from bullying right now and want to know how to stop it.